I had an amazing coaching session with Elizabeth Saunders and she helped me uncover WHY YOU HAVEN’T HEARD FROM ME FOR SO LONG!! I haven’t written a blog post the whole of 2015. Why? Elizabeth helped me see I was scared. And my fears were paralising me. My mean girl was saying “you don’t have anything interesting to say”, and even worse “who do you think you are to have a blog”. Wow. I didn’t feel worthy of having a voice and highlighted my fears of not being loved and being criticised, and my writing being boring to you.
I got this message reinforced yesterday when I saw Marie Foleo’s video about writing and the feeling of “who am I to write this”. I was shocked to learn that even self assured Marie hears that in her head too. It’s called Resistance. She has 3 tips.
- Write how you talk
- Learn, share and credit
- Not writing, is like stealing from your audience. “When you’re afraid to write don’t think about “who am I to say this” but “who am I not to say this”
There were 240 comments about his article, which so many other people having this issue … hmmm, there are no “new problems”. One of the comments that really resonated was from another Elizabeth.
Your voice is precious. Your message is precious. Your life is a story and a gift that only you can give to the world, so please, please, please give it.
Someone needs to hear from you. They need to hear from you today.
I believe in the very core of my bones that when you speak your deep truth, you change the world. You choose love and not fear. You set yourself free and every one of us gets a little brighter because of it.
I am going to be super gentle with myself as I get comfortable with my voice, my right to have a voice and validating my voice. I will reassure myself with words – “I understand this is intimidating, you have a voice, you are special and have an original voice .I have a right to have a voice
And finally, from my beloved Marianne Williamson
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.